February 2023 Social

[virgosplaining]

It's finally here! Let's hang out, chat, and be merry all through this weekend. :) You're welcome to use this as an introduction & friending post!

Something I personally think about a lot is the "I always knew I was trans" vs "I had a sudden realization at some point later in life" experiences of gender journeying. Some of us already covered that in the last round, but it's simply a suggested topic to share & chat about. ♥

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Re: Checking in

[virgosplaining]

Yes, it's honestly something I wish more people understood. Where I live, it can sometimes be a matter of safety, if not simple comfort. Of course, with the way things have been proceeding in this country, I find myself wanting more and more to be not only visibly queer (something I've apparently already achieved), but visibly not-cis as well. I find cishet drag most useful when getting through family events or similar things, but I'm far more invested in having moments of connection with other queer folk in my day to day. Just little moments of solidarity, for both of us to know we aren't alone.

True, perhaps that was phrased badly. It just felt freeing to introduce myself using they/them pronouns and not having to pretend :) It really is contrarian bs -- one of my best friend's mom apparently uses a convoluted mind trick to remember to use the right pronouns for me, but that's the thing: she made the effort, and she uses the correct pronouns for me. And just in general, people use 'they/them/theirs' in the singular constantly, they just excuse it as ~too weird~ grammatically when it's someone's personal pronoun when really that's exactly what they're saying: they just don't want to change and/or they are being dishonest with everyone and themselves about their own transphobia.