February 2023 Social

[virgosplaining]

It's finally here! Let's hang out, chat, and be merry all through this weekend. :) You're welcome to use this as an introduction & friending post!

Something I personally think about a lot is the "I always knew I was trans" vs "I had a sudden realization at some point later in life" experiences of gender journeying. Some of us already covered that in the last round, but it's simply a suggested topic to share & chat about. ♥

Comments

[virgosplaining]

Ah yeah, I get that. Sometimes when I would talk about gender things, I would have some of my friends be like "...are you sure you're not a boy?" -- but I really never had that desire or wish. I just didn't want to be Perceived As A Girl. The twisty paths we take...

[rielism]

Reading these comments from both of you has me ticking a lot of boxes in my head. I can definitely relate to the overarching theme of being aware of the presence of some kind of feeling of “otherness”- but not having the knowledge or vocabulary to have a proper grasp on it- for both undiagnosed neurodiversity AND unidentified Gender/Queerness Feels. Also, absolutely with you on wanting to be born a boy but never really regarding it as something exceptional (like hold on, that’s not typical of every afab person? whaaa?) because of the option of Tomboyishness and the extent to which young girls’ gender expression can be mutable while still not ringing any alarm bells. It’s sort of funny to be able to look back on it all and be able to tell exactly what was going on.

[virgosplaining]

My mother also grew up pretty tomboy-ish and to this day is not super effeminate, so it was never weird for me to be that way too, lol. Something I'm pretty grateful of, tbh