Roommate roulette

[ng_moonmoth]

I will be attending a weekend retreat offering a number of intensive courses. Spouse had originally planned to join me until the course they had planned on taking lost an instructor and changed focus. So I'm going on my own.

If I was going with spouse, I would have a chance to peek out from behind my gender-normative disguise a bit, but only to the extent they would be comfortable with. That varies. Going by myself, I can go as myself if I want. But that might be challenging if I wound up sharing a room, depending on who I get, and the cost of not sharing a room is a big percentage of the (not cheap!) retreat cost.

My experience with the community interested in the retreat is that it is reasonably tolerant, and contains many accepting people. My impression is that there's a good chance that a roommate would be able to handle my expressing my gender variance.

Anyone had any experience with something like this? What happened? It's hard to measure the value of not having to misgender myself for a weekend in money, but that's what I'm facing right now. Anything I can find out will help.

Comments

[rosefox]

It sounds like this is a more professional event than I was thinking of at first; most of the conference-type events I go to are run by volunteers who personally know a lot of the attendees. If someone asked me to help find them a trans-friendly roommate at the event I volunteer for every year, I could list a dozen names without trying. So I thought something like that might be possible, but it sounds like it's not.

I hope you have a great time and feel safe and happy there.

[ng_moonmoth]

>> It sounds like this is a more professional event than I was thinking of at first <<

Not in the sense that one can make what I'm learning about a trade (that ship sailed a couple centuries ago), but definitely in the sense that it's a significant component of the organizing company's business model.

>> I hope you have a great time and feel safe and happy there. <<

Thank you. Me, too, as I'm hoping to be able to apply the skills I'll be learning in ways I can use to improve the congruence between my expression and my gender identity.