February 2023 Social

[virgosplaining]

It's finally here! Let's hang out, chat, and be merry all through this weekend. :) You're welcome to use this as an introduction & friending post!

Something I personally think about a lot is the "I always knew I was trans" vs "I had a sudden realization at some point later in life" experiences of gender journeying. Some of us already covered that in the last round, but it's simply a suggested topic to share & chat about. ♥

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New Gender Just Dropped

[fleetsparrow]

Kind of like a Beyoncé album dropping out of nowhere, that's kind of how my trans realization was. Like, oh, look at that. That would explain a few things. Huh.

Hindsight really is 20/20, isn't it? Because I can go back through the things I loved as a kid and be like, "Ah, yes, I see it all now" when really, I could never have told anyone why I preferred being a Beatle to being a Beatle's Girlfriend (please don't ask about my juvenile "LARPing before I knew the word for it", it's too embarrassing) back then.

It also explains why me + titties have always been mortal enemies from, like, day one. But I digress.

Probably the one thing that solidified that this was A Thing I Could Do was meeting my newly-transitioned cousin when I was 13 and being instantly both cool with her and also amazed like, "You can DO that???"

Alternatively, I could title the look back on my youth as a series of failures: failure to understand neurotypical thought-patterns, failure to understand gender roles, failure to conform to gender roles, failure to find sex appealing, etc. But then, that seems like a bleak and negative way of looking at difference, too invested in the status quo's ideal of how people should be (alternatively alternatively, I could see every past failure as me having overcome these problems, but that gets into thornier issues than these).

All of these ramblings are just to say, hoo boy, gender feelings are complicated, and I still am like *shrug emoji* when asked what my gender is.

Anyway, I'm Fleet and I'm still coming around to the "agender" label (which, being asexual, you'd think I'd love, but I'm still feeling "genderless" as a better option for me *insert The More You Know rainbow here*).

This is probably why I'm so fond of queer, because both its definitions fit me, lololol.

Re: New Gender Just Dropped

[virgosplaining]

This is probably why I'm so fond of queer, because both its definitions fit me, lololol.

God, huge same. I also feel the same about genderless vs agender, and I also like genderqueer a smidge more than non-binary. I just feel blessed that we have and continue to create all this beautiful language for ourselves ♥