Genderqueer, nonbinary, Silicon Valley (California) resident. Had difficulty as a kid with why there were "boy things" and "girl things", and why it mattered as much as it seemed to. Still do.
My reaction to parental and cultural indoctrination while growing up was to bury all that deeply enough beneath a layer of cishet normativity that even I didn't realize it was there. Some years back, when the words showed up, the gender identity did, too. And finally made sense of things I'd been doing for self-care in those years.
Went from there to going Out In Public as myself in specific gender-friendly environments, to more and more situations, to a lot of the time in daily life and pretty much all the time in several communities I'm part of.
By way of helping people in those communities who I have known for a while understand where I'm going, I often wear my genderqueer and they/them buttons, no matter my outfit. And the button pictured in this post's icon by way of illuminating what spurred my social transition.
In here, I'm fine going by "Moonmoth" for now. I am (successfully) experimenting with an out name that speaks to me, but I'm holding out to see whether one that sings to me shows up. I have some sticky notes with more information, including where the handle comes from, at the top of my journal.
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Chiming in
Date: 2022-12-03 04:25 am (UTC)My reaction to parental and cultural indoctrination while growing up was to bury all that deeply enough beneath a layer of cishet normativity that even I didn't realize it was there. Some years back, when the words showed up, the gender identity did, too. And finally made sense of things I'd been doing for self-care in those years.
Went from there to going Out In Public as myself in specific gender-friendly environments, to more and more situations, to a lot of the time in daily life and pretty much all the time in several communities I'm part of.
By way of helping people in those communities who I have known for a while understand where I'm going, I often wear my genderqueer and they/them buttons, no matter my outfit. And the button pictured in this post's icon by way of illuminating what spurred my social transition.
In here, I'm fine going by "Moonmoth" for now. I am (successfully) experimenting with an out name that speaks to me, but I'm holding out to see whether one that sings to me shows up. I have some sticky notes with more information, including where the handle comes from, at the top of my journal.